Let’s have a discussion–maybe even a bit of heated debate. I just read a thought-provoking article about how to talk with little girls. A worthwhile read for moms and dads alike. It focuses us on avoiding complimenting little girls on their looks for fear of them obsessing about how pretty they are instead of how smart they can be. Well worth reading.
Read the article here now and then come back to the blog post.
Interesting stuff, though when I read it, it seemed unbalanced to me. Does it have to be either/or? So black and white? What ‘s wrong with building up our little girls’ self-esteem about how smart she can be and also telling her how cute she is? Apparently I’m not the only one to wonder. Please read the alternative response written by Carla Molina linked at the bottom of the first article. Carla’s article is called “How to Raise Little Girls Who Love Their Looks.” In it she writes of a balance the first article seems to askew. Carla says, “I will not ignore their looks for the sake of making them feel smart. I do not believe brains and beauty are mutually exclusive. My girls can be both attractive and smart. Feminine and athletic. You know, all those delicious gender specific traps of being a female and their “masculine” counterparts.”
\What do you think of these two articles and the contrary opinions they offer?
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